Hi! sooo i just saw your blog and i just thought that i should share of my negative experience because i think it is healthy to talk about it. soooo this is my story when i was in grade school i was very popular because i am a voleyball player salutatorian, awarded as the style leader and the beauty charmer and a lot of guys are like into me. and im not bragging. so let’s continue… uhhhmm. and i was so confident back then and whenever or wherever we have a program i’m the leader because they find me as they’re inspiration and they find me confident. and then when i was in freshmen year i felt the same way but this negative issues start when i was sophomore and you know that feeling when someone poked *you and they will just say that “You’re ugly you shouldn’t be here” all my batchmates are like calling me ugly. i am not joking. that is true. all of them. even the boys are calling me ugly. and that made my confidence dropped on the floor. so im a loner back then. i have no friends like literally. because all of them dont like me. and not even one person tried to befriend with me. and because of that i walk with my face faced on the floor and i rarely looked at people. and that day i started to please everyone. so im insecure with myself and i want to be like other people. and when *I always see beautiful girls i felt like why is it so unfair. i cry everynight thinking that im not pretty im not gonna have a friend because im not popular AND IM NOT PRETTY, im not gonna have a boyfriend. SO I’M FINDING someone WHO will tell that i’m beautiful BECAUSE it is really hard that i dont HAVE friends, i cant find someone to lean on but God, because i know that he will never say that im ugly and he will never say that im not worth it. so yeahh now i’m a senior and i dont have friends. i tried wearing a lot of make up so that they find me beautiful but they all laugh at me and they’re sayin that what did you do to yourself you look like a clown. honestly im not good at make up. and im like shy to be infront of many people because when i practiced my speech on the stage uhmmm some of my batchmates throw papers on me they’re saying that “go away, you’re making the view ugly” so yeaaahh. i need someone to know this stuff about me so that i can read or feel a lot of enrichment, enlightenment and i want to have other friends. so yeaah. my family did not know anything about this and because of my shyness they call me idiot, dumb. and that make me feel even worst because i felt like i can’t do anything so guys please help mee. i cant do this by myself. thank you.
heeeyy :) I'm really looking forward to videos and other new an exciting things on this blog! :) and i welcome Cara and Eliza into this amazing blog! :D keep up the good work girls! love you all... you have helped me see the beauty in myself and in life :D
So, first of all, I would like to congratulate all of the Beauty-in-Life girls who graduated from high school today (Maggie, Darby, Christi, Abby H., Atesha, and yours truly)! I’d especially like to give a shout-out to Abby H. for winning two big-shot awards at the ceremony today. You go, girl!
Now that things have slowed down a bit and summer has started, there will be more original content on the blog, rather than just pictures, quotes, etc. Expect more posts and videos! Coming this week, I’ll be doing the much-promised meditation video that I never got around to.
Come September, when the Westminster seniors head off to start college, we will be introducing two new contributors to the blog: Cara and Eliza. They are both two wonderful young women from Westminster who are rising seniors and will serve as a connection between the blog and the school as to keep the message alive. Join me in congratulating our new members!
That being said, WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH. Thank you for being amazing followers and sticking with us through everything. You’re thebomb.com. (Okay, you can judge me for that)! But it’s true. ;)
So I would like to let you all know that I will be spending my first 4 months of college in the lovely city of Melbourne, Australia. I am leaving pretty soon (July 26) and I thought it would be appropriate to start a blog for this. It is not a tumblr blog however I may make another one for tumblr but my blog will be currently be at:
Here you can follow my pre-departure, my adventures, and eventually my return home to the USA and my transition into Northeastern University in Boston. I will start making posts soon if you would like to follow my progress.
May all beings have happiness and the causes of happiness. May all beings be free from suffering and the causes of suffering. May all beings rejoice in the well-being of others. May all beings live in peace, free from greed and hatred.
Maggie, here. I haven’t posted in awhile and after doing some shopping today I’ve actually come up with something to post. So here it is. Although I went shopping for dresses for some special occasions before graduation (its crazy to be graduating high school), I did peruse the lovely bathing suit section of the store I was in. No, I didn’t happen to try any on because of the mission I was there to accomplish but it got me thinking, “Oh my gosh. The summer is coming up and I’m actually going to be showing some skin.”
I got a little nervous when my mom commented that I go try one on but I avoided the suggestion at all costs. Although I love going to the beach and laying out most of the summer, I get anxious thinking about having to take off my shirt and show my pale stomach after months of hiding in sweaters and jackets.
But then I realize that unless you are Megan Fox or a Victoria’s Secret model you are probably just as uncomfortable as me. We all have our insecurities when it comes to showing a little more of our bodies than we are used to during those summer months. So as you start shopping for that new suit or new trunks just remember that if you like it, nothing else matters because you’ll be confident in it. Everyone else is going to have their insecurities when at the poolside or the beach. You aren’t the only one. We all get nervous from being vulnerable but it doesn’t mean that we should keep hiding.
So go out and get ready to make a splash (literally).
this blog is SO amazing and lovely. telling girls to love themselves (or anyone actually) is so super important and i cannot stress it enough. thank you so much for raising awareness to this enormous issue in today's society and helping everyone that needs a pick me up. (:
Hey :) I'm not sure where I saw this quote but it totally reminded me of you (I'm not sure how it goes exactly so I'll paraphrase): "Anyone can die, but it takes a strong person to decide to live." Anyway... Just thought I'd share it :) I thought it was really cool
I just wanted to share something that happened to me the other day; I was in PE class (the British equivalent of gym, I think) and the teacher/coach was telling us how to use all the gym and weight-lifting equipment. She was talking about all the benefits of each exercise… Except she never once mentioned any health benefits, she only focused on weight loss and ‘getting the perfect body’, even using underweight celebrities as examples. To be honest, I found it sickening that she believed that the only way that we, as teenage girls, would be motivated and interested in doing exercise was if she told us to lose weight and be like the ‘perfect’ girls that are portrayed in the media. It made me so mad, because although she maybe didn’t mean harm by the comments and said them lightly, girls (and guys for that matter) should NEVER be made to feel they have to change for others. If people want to lose weight, they should do it for themselves and to benefit themselves, not because someone made them feel like they should, or because they think they’re not good enough. And I know everyone’s probably tired of hearing this, but everyone is beautiful, no matter what shape or size you are. Don ‘t let people tell you what to do with YOUR body, and don’t you dare let them convince you that you’re not good enough.
In my work studying the sons of single and two-mother families, I found deep concern about the lack of male role models for these boys. But shift genders, and girls and female role models is a conversation we seldom seem to have.
Part of that is the fact that 80 percent of the single parent families in the U.S. are headed by females. Combined with two-parent families, it’s statistically likely that girls will have a female role model in residence.
Still, we’re up against powerful cultural and media currents. The great post-feminist irony is that in an age of hard-won female opportunity, media is channeling that opportunity to a place of hyper-sexualized stupidity. It’s not who you are — it’s how hot you are.
Ask a young girl about the females she looks up to, and chances are good that — after family members — her list will be crowded with celebrities.
Young women at the most emotionally malleable time in their lives will naturally turn to celebrities for cues on everything from love to dress to sexuality. You don’t have to spend a lot of time wading around in the media muck to see that young females are represented by a collection ranging from sad to frightening — whose claim to celebrity is becoming a coarse side show.
But give girls some credit.
Most are not going to pattern their behavior on women who exit stores without paying or exit limos without underwear. They understand there is no reality show potential in the young women who manage to build public careers without making sex tapes, having sex in communal hot tubs, or collapsing on a Hollywood sidewalk at 3 a.m.
But at the same time, we can’t dismiss celebrity’s cumulative power. Sex objects in disarray have become the depressing norm. Strong, confident, accomplished women are out there by the legions. But they are going about building lives beyond the peripheral vision of popular culture.
Especially for young girls, peers provide the guide to things socially acceptable and desirable. Studies show very clearly that popular media is a super-peer; a force that can literally shape identities at a time when those identities are in play.
None of that is new. What’s new is that technology has made sleaze-celebrity extremely loud and incredibly intimate.
I remember those innocent days when a mother could say: “I don’t let my kids watch MTV.” Good luck with that today. Celebrity images are blasted at young girls 24 hours a day, pinging from TV screens to computer screens to smart phone screens.
The web has knocked down the appearance of separation between image and real-life. These professional bad examples are fully interactive. Experience enough of the Bad Girls Club, and you could come to accept that the acceptable — even preferable — response is a punch in the face.
The problem is more obvious than the solutions. The media culture is a formidable beast.
Still, some are pushing back. Sisters and parents Abi and Emma Moore founded a UK Website called Pinkstinks (pinkstinks.org.uk) to counter marketing and media they see as overwhelmingly focused on girls being pretty, passive, and obsessed with shopping. They pick on pink as the default color for all things submissive and girly.
Their mission is to use multimedia and partnerships to confront the “damaging messages that bombard girls though toys, clothes and media.”
The site started when Abi was making a film for CNN about scientist Naomi Halas, who is quietly and anonymously doing ground-breaking work using nano-technology to fight cancer. At the same time, Paris Hilton was being released from jail to a tsunami of media coverage — including telling Barbara Walters that she found spirituality in jail. And her skin was dry. That was enough for the sisters, and their website was born.
One website — or 20 — won’t stem the tide. But with a shared and wide commitment to present — and, if we’re lucky, to be — the real role models, we might lift young girls above it.