Iv come to a point in my life where I feel like my only option is to do something completely out of my comfort zone. Iv come to the conclusion that my life is at a stand still and I’m not sure how to go about changing it. I love my family and friends, but I feel that in order for me to grow as a person I need to be on my own for a little while. I feel lost in this world, I don’t no who i wanna be, or what career choice i should make. I have a large family so its hard to make decisions without disappointing someone. Basically what I’m asking for is for someone to just give me some positive feedback, constructive criticism, or even some ideas.
Abby W. and I were chatting today and how good it feels to cleanse your life… Ok maybe we didn’t full on go philosophical, but I felt it brewing. This summer, I challenge you all to cleanse some aspect of your life. We have so much junk built up around us in our lives and simplifying feels so good. Summer is the perfect time because you have the time (I hope you’re relaxing) to re-evaluate and prioritize. Start simple and see where it goes. Anything and everything is good! Some of my ideas are:
1. Only watch TV two times in a week
2. De-activate your Facebook for as long as you can
3. Clean out your closet
4. Go through all that desk crap that’s been sitting there for years. STOP PROCRASTINATING!
5. Limit your soda, coffee, and energy drink consummation.
6. Put away your phone, computer, iPad, any portable electronic two hours before you plan on going to bed.
7. Stop reading trashy magazines and start reading REAL books.
8. Spend an extra 10, 15, 20, 30 etc. minutes outside each day. Wear your sunscreen!
9. CREATE YOUR OWN! Send us your ideas and ways to you’ve cleansed your life.
Start good habits now and they will continue into seasons and months to come!
My first true love moved miles and miles away today. I don't know what to do with myself. I've cried every single minute today. I just cant let him go. He didnt even bother giving me a sincere goodbye. he hugged me, but never said goodbye. i tell him i miss him so much, he doesnt really even seem to care. he says hes coming back to visit, i askto see him but he says yeah most likely. i love him so much. hes gonig into the army too. i just dont know what to do. i cant let go. what do i doo.
<3 I’m sending you so much love, girl. I need you to listen to yourself, okay? Listen to your gut. The most important thing is that you are in a GOOD relationship, one that benefits you. You do not need a boyfriend to make you beautiful, you know? Break up with him if you feel that’s what is best for you. Stay if you want to keep trying. But listen to yourself.
I struggled with cutting for the past year. It's been 2 and a half months since the last time. I shared my testimony at my church the other week, and I included that in my story. After church a lady asked me if i wanted to be an advocate with some organization. I said no, because I just want that to be in my past. Do you think that is selfish? it's just something i'm not proud of.
That is not selfish whatsoever! I honestly applaud you for listening to yourself and knowing what you were comfortable with. That is an ability that many people lack. You are wonderful and beautiful, and I am so proud of you for moving forward. xoxo
I don't understand how people freak out when someone asks them what their weight is. I do wish I could be lighter, and I'm working on it... But if someone asks, I tell.
If you are having personal issues, you are more than welcome to come off of anon to have a private conversation. However, this is a public blog meant to empower women and men by taking the meaning of beauty away from the number that is on the scale.
“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”—John Lennon
I know that I haven’t blogged in ages and I apologize for my lack of it, but it’s been a hectic time period and it seems like it’s over and I’m going to do my best to get back on track. Right after our Westminster graduation, I moved away from school and into a new home. New state, new neighborhood, no school to make friends, new summer job, and naturally, I was scared. But I’ve been here for about three weeks now, and while I miss my friends, my local ice cream flavor, my running trails, I can say I’ve adjusted. It doesn’t quite feel like home yet, but I’ve continued to do the things that make me happiest and that’s what matters. As you’re going through transitions in your life, don’t forget about the past, but add onto it. Store the bad memories a little further from the center of your heart, but don’t lose sight of them. Everything, good and bad, is what makes you strong and beautiful. I’ve found a new park I love walking through, the best soup in the planet, but I will never forget my home. I cannot wait to expand into a new culture and learn new things about new people and places. I love having my old home and town as a safety net, but I’m confident on my own and you should be too. Don’t be scared to take those leaps in life. If you’ve come this far, there are things in your life that you can always fall back on. And if the reward comes through, it’s just something to add onto that net.
I don’t mean to go all Rev Run on you all (although he’s a boss in my viewpoint) but I’m serious here. Don’t be afraid of change. Whether it’s your choice or not, make the best of it. New things can make you see a new perspective on life. It’s a good thing.
Goodnight ladies (AND GENTS… that’d be so cool if you read this blog) and sleep tight.
Hey, I'm the one who wrote previously about trying to cut myself.... I would love to call one of the hotlines, but I can't. I don't live in the USA. I really just need something I could listen to or read every time I struggle. Any suggestions? I just... I don't know what's wrong with me. I feel terrible.
This is what I like to watch when I’m feeling down. Please keep in mind, however, that some references may cause a trigger which Jenny mentions before speaking about the aforementioned references.
I encourage you to seek out help. This can be through a hotline (google your country’s national #!), a therapist, or even just a friend. You may also message the girls at Beauty in Life if you come off ‘anonymous’ :)
The other day I tried to cut myself. I didn't chicken out or come to reason, I just literally couldn't. The knife wouldn't pierce my skin. Afterwards, I felt kind of relieved that it hadn't worked, but at the same time.... Disappointed in myself for letting ti get that far. I don't really have a friend I can talk to about this. I have one friend who cuts herself all the time, but I think she just does it for attention, she totally flaunts it. I just, needed to tell someone.
The next time you feel like cutting yourself, please call one of the hotlines listed on our page. You are beautiful and wonderful and incredible, even if you don’t believe it. I am so proud of you for not cutting. You are stronger than your demons.
A few nights ago, I was on vacation and went to a local festival. There was lots of food, music, and dancing, but the main event of the evening were the fireworks that came after dark. As the whole town bundled up in blankets in the park to watch the spectacle, I could feel the energy change into one of awe and excitement.
Of course, the fireworks display was beautiful. So many colors… gold, red, green, white, blue… added to the mystifying element of fireworks… that little part of us that still is in awe of what a beautiful thing we can do. But after each of the fireworks went off, I saw something just as beautiful. There in the sky were beautiful patterns of smoke going every which way. The way the moon reflected off of the water lit up the sky just right so everyone could see.
It made me think- even if you put on a fantastic show, it’s your legacy that matters. As long as you try your best, that determination will linger.