“We cannot live for ourselves alone. Our lives are connected by a thousand invisible threads, and along these sympathetic fibers, our actions run as causes and return to us as results.”—Herman Melville
Everything is as it should be. It’s crazy how you always end up where you’re meant to be – how even the most tragic and stressful situations eventually teach you important lessons that you never dreamed you were going to learn. Remember, oftentimes when things are falling apart, they are actually falling into place.
Not until you are lost in this world can you begin to find your true self. Realizing you are lost is the first step to living the life you want. The second step is leaving the life you don’t want. Making a big life change is pretty scary. But you know what’s even scarier? Regret. Vision without action is a daydream, and action without vision is a nightmare. Your heart is free, have the courage to follow it.
It’s usually the deepest pain which empowers you to grow to your full potential. It’s the scary, stressful choices that end up beingthe most worthwhile. Without pain, there would be no change. But remember, pain, just like everything in life, is meant to be learned from and then released.
One of the hardest decisions you will ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or take another step forward. If you catch yourself in a cycle of trying to change someone, or defending yourself again someone who is trying to change you, walk away. But if you are pursuing a dream, take another step. And don’t forget that sometimes this step will involve modifying your dream, or planning a new one – it’s OK to change your mind or have more than one dream.
You have to take care of yourself first. Before befriending others, you have to be your own friend. Before correcting others, you have to correct yourself. Before making others happy, you have to make yourself happy. It’s not called selfishness, it’s called personal development. Once you balance yourself, only then can you balance the world around you.
One of the greatest freedoms is truly not caring what everyone else thinks of you. As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself, can you own yourself.
You may need to be single for awhile before you realize that, although the co-owned belongings from your failed relationships might not have been divided equally, the issues that destroyed the relationships likely were. For how can you stand confidently alone, or see the same issues arising in your newest relationship, and not realize which broken pieces belong to you? Owning your issues, and dealing with them, will make you far happier in the long run, than owning anything else in this world.
The only thing you can absolutely control is how you react to things out of your control. The more you can adapt to the situations in life, the more powerful your highs will be, and the more quickly you’ll be able to bounce back from the lows in your life. Put most simply: being at peace means being in a state of complete acceptance of all that is, right here, right now.
Some people will lie to you. Remember, an honest enemy is better than a friend who lies. Pay less attention to what people say, and more attention to what they do. Their actions will show you the truth, which will help you measure the true quality of your relationship in the long-term.
If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. If you are thankful for what you do have, you will end up having even more. Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold; happiness dwells in the soul. Abundance is not about how much you have, it’s how you feel about what you have. When you take things for granted, your happiness gets taken away. Read The Happiness Project
Yes, you have failed in the past. But don’t judge yourself by your past, you don’t live there anymore. Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday. You can turn it all around in the blink of an eye by making a simple choice to stand back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again.
Everything is going to be alright; maybe not today, but eventually. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. Sure the sun stops shining sometimes, and you may get a huge thunderstorm or two, but eventually the sun will come out to shine. Sometimes it’s just a matter of us staying as positive as possible in order to make it to see the sunshine break through the clouds again.
Hey :) I just wanted to share with you guys that I lost 2 kilos! :D I'm so proud of myself because I did it by eating right and exercising. I wanted to tell you because you are the ones who helped me reconsider anorexia. Thank you so so much! <3 You are amazing.
We are so proud of you! Stay strong and believe in yourself.
i really like this guy but he is 23 and i am 14 i love him so much but he doesnt seems to pay any attention to me,what do i do? :(
We obviously don’t know the exact situation, but that big of an age difference is illegal. Please talk to a trusted adult in your life who is able to be present your life and observe the situation accurately. Remember that no significant other can define you. You are a beautiful human being. xoxox
I've been struggling with weight for the past, i don't know how many years and honestly i dont wanna be perfect, i wanna be good, like i want to be someone people wont judge, even though people judge everyone.. I've lately been dealing with acne. And its really annoying considering all of my friends are thin and pretty and they dont have acne. I feel so bad sometimes, i try not to cry alot but i just cant handle it. Its really hard since everyone around me is better. Any help please? :'( .
You are beautiful. Beauty is not skin-deep. It goes into the core of your soul. Every essence of you is truly stunning. I want you to look in the mirror when you get up in the morning and find something beautiful about yourself. Maybe it’s, “My hair looks nice today” or “I’m a really nice person.” Keep doing that with something different every day. Stay strong. xoxox
Hey, i am a 16 year old girl and i lack confidence, i just started dancing because i love it so much but i feel so stressed bec there is no confidence, and this lack is dragging me down in school which sth that i really hate bec i am clever already. also this lack of confidence might be due to me thinking i am not pretty or fat, can you please help and give me advice what to do, thanks and i love your blog so much xoxo
I also started dancing at the age of 16 and I know exactly how you feel. Being in classes with people who were much more advanced than I was or thinner than me was a serious challenge for me at first. There were many times when I wanted to quit or give up but one thing kept me going: my love for dance. Even when things seemed unbearably hard, like balancing schoolwork and working on dance, my love for both things kept me going. Try to find your balance and if you really love dance, no matter what the situation or people around you might be like, you’ll keep going.
And remember, practice makes perfect. Keep practicing and you will get better. Don’t compare yourself to the skills of other people because there were once where you were and through practice they got better. I know entering and art form where people start before they can walk at the age of 16 is a challenge, but I have faith you can do it!
Hello all. I have adequately ignored you all and for that I am sorry. Somewhere lost in mist of graduation, moving to down south for college, and tending to my pregnant and very hormonal sister, you guys got lost. But I am back! I have missed all of you guys and I promise to be more active!
So I just got back from music camp. We spent a lovely week in the good ‘ole outdoors: camping in tents, drinking bug juice, and spending our rec periods by the gorgeous lake.
Despite endless amounts of spiders and that constant feeling that I have dirt on myself, I look forward to this week every year because its one of the only places where I can feel totally myself. No one cares how much you love Star Wars or the weird celebrity impressions you can make because it doesn’t matter how much of a dork you are. We are all there for one common purpose: to make music.
Each year after I come home from music camp, I feel empowered. I feel like no matter where I go I can be myself because those musicians have shown me that my quirks are important and make me who I am. I am reminded that it doesn’t matter how other people think of us but it is how we choose to think of ourselves. What we do and what we contribute to this world matters.
The number one lesson I always take away from music camp is that I am great and powerful just the way I am and there is nothing that should change that.
Embrace your quirks and dorky ways, its what makes you who you are.